How’s the last week been for you? You’ll be happy to know (or not care, either or) that I survived my first work trip sans baby. I missed him like crazy, but Facetime worked pretty well. He did try to look for me behind the iPad which was pretty darn cute. Regardless I was glad to be back with him Friday AM, giving him tons of kisses and hugs. I mean, really, look at this face:
And my back is feeling better! This makes me believe it is due to lifting Bean since it seemed to get better while on work travel. Maybe Tina’s Best Body Bootcamp will strengthen me up even more so this go ’round so I don’t strain myself again.
This weekend we tried to catch up on some family time, which really just meant running errands, ordering Thai food (pumpkin curry a la Shana Thai (that’s the name of the restaurant)), watching DVRed shows, drinking vino, cleaning, some pumpkin patch fun on Sunday,
and my first experience baking an acorn squash (complete with lentils and feta).
Finally getting to the post title, I read a magazine article last week while on travel (which magazine escapes me) and it mentioned that sharing your goals (aka spillin’ the beans) actually makes you less likely to achieve them. I don’t know about you, but I always thought sharing your goals made a person feel more committed to reaching them (if only to avoid public shortfall) and are held more accountable for their progress. But studies (since as early as the 1920′s) indicate the opposite. You can read more from a 2010 TED talk here. [Note, the magazine article was recent and once I unearth it again, I will share the source] The gist of the article was that studies show a sense of accomplishment is felt (feeling of success) by just announcing the goal rather than reaching it.
I got to thinking about what kind of person I am and realize I’m more of keep it to myself / share with only a select few. Perhaps it’s in part due to fearing public failure and / or it’s that I want to reserve the right to change my mind and my course. In the past, I was more open about sharing goals, mainly because I felt they were completely in my control (what school to go to, grad school, jobs, etc). But now I feel like my bigger life goals are family-related and are not as hard and fast as they once were. My bestie is probably just the opposite. When Boston was just a glimmer, the bestie announced to all that she was going to interview at a specific company, and then move to Boston. And whatdya know? She did! I swear, she could have a goal of making grass purple and it would happen
So whatever your goals may be: tone up, get pregnant, buy a home, earn a promotion, etc — do you share or keep it to yourself? Or does it depend on what the goal is?