Feeding the beast

You think I’m talking about myself dontcha?  Nope, I’m referring to the pint-sized beast who is semi-permanently attached to my boob: Soybean (aka Sawyer).

Jan 31 2012

Before I merge onto that topic into depth, I wanted to fill you in on how my post-baby body progress is coming along.  I don’t want to do a weekly update because the changes will likely be minimal, so I’ll let you know in full how things are going next week when I have my 6 week postpartum doctor’s appointment.  I have been getting in more activity though including a 4 mile hike on Saturday, weights on Sunday and cardio on Monday.  All of it has been very mild, but it feels oh so very good to get back to the gym.  It does absolute wonders for my disposition. 

Okay back to "feeding the beast"…While lil soybean has been a really pretty easy baby, life hasn’t been without hurdles.  Breastfeeding is one of the most immediate trials.  Women have been doing it since the beginning of time so you’d think it would be easy as can be, but really there is a learning curve.  And the learning curve, for me, had a lot to do with getting over the discomfort (and sometimes pain).

But based on some horror stories I heard, my experience was a cinch!  Sure there was a few blisters, tenderness, etc, but no mastitis, clogged ducts, or swollen montgomery glands (…yet).

I started breastfeeding in the hospital right after giving birth and don’t remember a single thing.  During my stay I was fortunate to see a lactation consultant who went through holds and technique:

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Nice visual eh?

For me, I quickly learned the football hold was easiest though I desperately wished the side lying hold would work so I could eventually feed in bed Winking smile

After leaving the hospital we had a visit at the "Newborn Club" where they checked Sawyer’s weight, then had me feed him, and checked his weight after feeding on each side.  I averaged about an ounce which is great for only 5 days after birth.  And it was wonderful having a lactation consultant check my latch and the girls to make sure all was well with the world Smile with tongue out  Because the soybean had lost nearly a pound since birth, we went back to the Newborn Club to weigh him again a few days later and he had gained a few more ounces so breastfeeding was working.  At this time he was feeding every 3-4 hours and even had a 6 hour stretch and an 8 hour stretch.

I should also note that we had already been using a pacifier simultaneously since the hospital.  The nurses provided one and asked my permission before giving him one. There were no issues with nipple confusion using the binky and breastfeeding.  We have been using the Nuk brand pacifier.

Pumping was another story.  Though I’ve had my pump (Medela Pump in Style) since pregnancy, it took me until 3 weeks postpartum to give it a go.  I blame my slow recovery.  Pumping is seriously a hoot.  My hubby and I gave it a go one evening and were cracking up at how ridiculous I looked.  I felt like a total cow.  I only pumped one side at a time and still do, mainly because I was usually using my other hand to play on my phone and I just broke out my hands-free bra yesterday.  Whoops. 

I’ve been pumping 1x per day and storing it in the freezer, though we did introduce a bottle about a week ago with no issues whatsoever. 
However, last week Sawyer was a bit fussy and feeding a lot and I feared I wasn’t supplying him with enough food.  Sure he had plenty of wet/dirty diapers per day, but based on my low-perceived volume of pumping (about 2+ ounces total per time), I decided to call the advice nurse.

She assured me that my body was producing enough and to make sure I was drinking a ton of liquid especially while I’m in the act of breastfeeding.  She also suggested I burp in between sides to make sure all air is out of him so he can accept more food.  Both great tips.
Now this week, he’s been upping his desired feedings from 3-4 hours to close to every 2.  Oye. 

For this reason, I decided to start to supplement with formula.  What I want to say here is that I do NOT feel like a failure for supplementing at close to 5 weeks.  I read so many blogs with new moms saying they feel like their body faiiled them.  Why?  Every lifestyle and body is so different, we can’t expect that every women will as easily produce milk as the next.  There are so many factors that can affect milk production.  Besides, there is nothing wrong with formula-fed babies.  In fact, both my hubby and I were exclusively fed formula and we turned out fine (…we think..haha). 

So anyway, sure I could easily be at his beckon call every 2 hours, but that would have really tested my patience and my sanity particularly in the evenings when he cluster feeds a bit.  I wanted to have a bit of flexibility to leave the house if need be or get some extra stuff done if I so choose.
We chose the Enfamil Infant formula and so far so good.  Our plan is to feed him once a day with formula and the rest of the time breastfeed, but this could change.  Flexibility is key. 

As with everything in pregnancy, motherhood, life, it is easy to compare, but what’s most important is doing what’s right by you!  There is no one way, no right way, no best way.  It comes down to what works for you and your family so that you are healthy, sane, happy, and have a good quality of life. 

And with that, Happy Thursday!

PS I use the Boppy for all my feedings and love it!

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22 Responses to Feeding the beast

  1. It’s funny that you mention the pump! I’m sure it feels awkward, but a cow is a funny way of looking at it for sure! There’s a girl on my team at work that just came back from maternity leave and we have all been instructed that when here door is closed we shouldn’t go in because she’s pumping!! I cannot imagine doing that at work! Does it get to a point where you get full and can’t function until you pump?

  2. Oh geez, how little I know about pregnancy and being a mother. I can’t imagine anyone not feeling there was quite the learning curve!

    P.S. Totally agree that exercise changes your disposition!

  3. Pumping seems so awkward to me! Granted I am no where near having children, which may account for some of the “eek” factor. Love the first pic of you and the lil one :D

  4. Sounds like he hit a growth spurt! They’re designed to up your supply since your body will adjust the amount it produces based on what baby needs. Since he’s consistently going to eat more, growth spurts really boost your supply.

    That said, I had to make the switch to formula 2 months ago due to low supply and it has actually done wonders for my sanity. My hubby and I were both formula fed, too, and our little guy hasn’t gotten sick at all yet! *knock on wood* You do what you gotta do to get that baby fed. =)

  5. I hope to breast feed for so many reasons. Glad the little one is taking to it so well! I’m sure it’s doing crazy things to your hunger as well. :)

  6. I love being on the “everyone has their own experience” train. Trying to compare my pregnancy to others has been maddening, and I’m sure motherhood will be the same. It’s all about what works right? :)

  7. Glad to hear everything is going well! Have no worries about supplementing with formula. We started supplementing right away with Ethan (partly because he was so little and needed the formula with extra calories) but it was wonderful as he got older because then family and hubby can help out! So don’t worry at all about supplementing! I thought pumping was really awkward at first too! I was concerned that I wasn’t pumping enough as well, but I think it is normal to not pump as much as they would consume at a feeding. I love hearing how everything is going and seeing all the pics!

  8. Soybean’s having a Growth spurt!!!!!

    Let me give you a pumping tip…do both at the same time! I was doing one boob at a time the first several week and got like NO milk! I was feeding Ella like every hour, it was so stressful making sure I had enough milk, pumped enough, etc etc. The growth spurts were the worst too. They eat CONSTANTLY!!!

    I mastered the side lying, football was tough for me. Side lying will change your life. It makes it So much easier especially with rough recovery like we both had. I hope you can do that soon.

    When I went back to work I had to supplement for about 2 weeks. Then I met a nurse who gave me the most amazing tips and I was like pumping 8 ounces in ten minutes and my life changed (in the beginning I was pumping for like 30 minutes and barely got 2 ounces)

    -lots of water like you said

    -pump after feedings for 10 minutes, you won’t get anything but it builds your supply. (note-I HATE pumping!!! but it got So much easier as time went on, I barely have to pump anymore thanks to my work schedule)

    -I started drinking the earth mama tea I forget what it has in it but I still drink it time to time and I get so much milk when I do.

    Yes, so many things affect milk supply. I reflect back, and although not intentional, I was so gung ho about cutting out sugar, eating all my greens, etc it was the worst thing I could have done. Once I started counting my calories and making sure I ate a LOT, that helped make for a happier baby. Exercise too…you burn calories and need to make it up. My body hated me for it and I honestly think that’s why I had such a tough time losing weight. My body was holding on to that fat on my body for dear life! Once I started eating a lot more, and Ella turned about 6 months it started falling off more quickly. Everyone is different, but you live and you learn.

    As far as supp with formula, I like your attitude. I’m glad you’re not feeling like a failure. I hate hearing moms say that too. I admit though that I hated that I had to supplement, not because I thought formula was “the devil” or anything (I was a formula baby too, although I didn’t turn out that great ;-) )but because I felt kind of proud that I could exclusively provide her with food. However, I also knew that I was doing what was best for her at that time. Luckily after those couple of weeks I no longer needed to because things got easier. I hated buying the stuff and cleaning so many bottles to be honest ;-)

    If not having Sawyer attached to your boob every hour helps keep you sane you have to do what’s best for you! You not stressing is best for baby! But I promise it all gets easier. Try the double pumping and maybe just pump once a day after a feeding when you can and see what happens! If it doesn’t work out that’s fine too! I am happy you know that! And anytime you have a question or anything you can text me!!

    You’re doing a great job!!!!

    • How fantastic are you Laury! Thank you so much for sharing all these extra tidbits. Part of the reason I’m not in love with breastfeeding exclusively is because I feel like I’m sort of trapped…and I think if I pump every time i feed, I’ll go crazy, but then again if it ups my supply so the soybean is getting more at once, that could be really great…AND I’d totally be able to stockpile for the future, which is another plus. I will for sure give a go.

      I bought the Mother’s Milk tea, but have not yet tried it. The flavor profile stinks..haha.

      As for food, believe me, I’m eating a ton! And my workouts have been pretty darn mild, so I don’t think that’s the issue. Actually I think that he just doesn’t demand to be fed that much so my supply isn’t super plentiful.

      I wish you lived closer so you could teach me the side lying. I feel so awkward doing that.

      Thank you so much for being such a great friend! xo!

  9. I just wanted to share that those cluster feeding nights are temporary and only during growth spurts. I understand your decision to supplement with formula, but just know it isn’t your only option. Breastfeeding exclusively gets a LOT easier after 6 weeks, especially after the horrible 3 & 6 week growth spurts and once you master pumping. You can still have your sanity and let other people take care of the babe- all you have to do is pump to build a little stash!

    Only sharing because I’ve been feeling like a MOO COW, but I’ve been making it too hard on myself. Now I’ve been pumping a lot more often to build a stash. It is such a relief to just leave a bottle and go do what I need to do without worry and without needing formula either. I wish someone had encouraged me to pump more earlier.

  10. Nicole Sayre

    Hi Shanna,

    I had to pump at work, when I went back…I am a teacher, so we don’t have a mom’s room. I had to lock myself in a closet and pump for 10 minutes, and then the students came knocking on my door. Ha! But, at least I got it in was able to feed him breastmilk for an entire year. My child also had a milk protein issue, so I could eat NO DAIRY whatsoever for 9 months after I gave birth, in which his GI system then caught up to the rest of him. So, with no dairy in my diet, it was hard to maintain milk supply, but pumping SERIOUSLY helped. Even 10 minutes every 2 hours for a couple days boosts it HUGELY!!! Then I could go back to every couple hours 3-4 :) :) Best of luck!

  11. I love that you said this. I don’t have kids yet, but I feel like people are so quick to judge, or feel like they aren’t good enough. Everyone has to do what is right for their own situation.

  12. I think you are amazing for handling all of this with such ease. Breastfeeding wasn’t even an option for me so I am so impressed with mothers who seem to take to it immediately!

  13. Thanks so much for sharing this, totally helps and makes me feel more at ease with the whole breast feeding thing. BF has to be my biggest fear especially since my mom always said she had trouble with keeping her milk supply… I feel like I’m already set back behind others, but I’m hoping to stay positive and not be super hard on myself with whatever happens.

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